Lets Have The Talk | Post Baby Sex

Talking about sex in general is so uncomfortable for most of us, especially post baby sex.

My husband and I never had any problems in this area until I got pregnant ….

Let me set the background for you ; I was HUGE !!!!! Everything and I mean everything, was swollen , I was uncomfortable , I couldn’t even find a comfortable position to sleep in , so needless to say my usual flexibility was something of the past 🤣

I was also quite moody (although if you ask my husband he would debate the “quite” part) so being intimate was the last thing on my mind and being touched while 7 months pregnant in a 46 degree South African summer was out of the question !

Needless to say we got through this phase with humor and we are even closer for going through this time in our marriage.

Then came our beautiful baby girl , and we were naive enough to believe that our sex life would soon go back to normal , boy were we wrong !

I had a c section so the usual 6 weeks applied before any intimacy, it goes without saying that the first time was everything but sexy 🙈

The weeks that followed came with such hectic baby blues and was just an emotional roller coaster for both of us , being new parents is so much harder than you ever thought it would be, no one can prepare you for it , even if you try mentally before the time , it just does not prepare you for the amount of love and the overwhelming feeling of looking after this tiny baby.

Now, almost 6 months later everything is back to normal , the amount of pressure a baby puts on a marriage is rarely talked about , 2 am crying will most certainly make you turn on each other!!

The good news is that everything goes back to normal , and even better than before , you and your partner get to know each other and get to see a whole new side, some of it bad , but all of it building blocks for a stronger relationship 💜

Being parents is the biggest blessing in the world and seeing your partner with your baby is just the most amazing sight you will ever get to see.

Angelique

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The Baby Spa

First of all yes , you read that right ! Baby spa ….

I took my daughter to the Life Day Baby section in Fourways and I was so pleasantly surprised.

It is not a spa like we go to as adults but the same idea at the end of the day – relaxation! They place a neck floaty on her and a swim nappy and place her in this huge warm tub to drift around and kick and splash away !

I thought for sure she was going to scream her head off with that huge thing around her neck , and to my surprise she loved every second of it ! The idea behind it is to strengthen their bodies and their core and to make them used to water off course.

After this they gave her a “baby massage” with aromatherapy oils and concentrated on all the areas that I though needed help , such as congestion , tummy problems etc.

This was such an amazing experience with my baby girl and my only regret is that I don’t live closer to take her more often , she slept well , like a baby afterwards for hours and was just so relaxed and she smelled so nice because of all the oils !

Although I don’t usually share pictures of my baby girl , today I will make an exception because I find myself staring at this picture so often !

Picture of my little water bug living her best life 🌸

Can you tell I am a proud mom !? 🤣

Does Being a Mom Ever Get Easier

Being a first time mom is intense , and I don’t have to tell anyone that ! We all know it !

Now that my baby girl is 5 and a half months old I feel like things are getting easier every day , I think it is mostly because I feel more confident as a mother and I know my baby girl and what she needs when .

But she is also more content and “easier” these days , she is sleeping so much better now after the sleep consultant , she started solids and we are both loving it , she is more active and is enjoying her toys and she is so easy to entertain !

She is definitely teething , and difficult at times but still I feel like I can handle it so much better than that first week at home !

I know that the future will hold so many more unexpected twists and turns and you cannot prepare for all of it , but I feel more comfortable in my own skin and within the relationship between me and my daughter . I already feel like we have such a strong bond and I am enjoying every minute with her.

I see moms with grownup children , and then the answer is clear , you will always worry about your children , being a mom is not a switch that you can turn off once your children go out into the world on their own , you always worry about whether they are okay safe and happy !

And I can already feel all of that just looking at my baby smoo ❤️

Being a mother is the best thing in the world !

Angelique

Nothing Like a Break to Gain Some Perspective

So yesterday I left my baby with my husband overnight for the first time , this was also my first night away from her !

First of all , he did so well , phoned me with updates all the time and he even handle a crying session alone like a champion , I am just so proud !

I missed her so much , it felt so weird being by myself the first few hours of the drive and I kept obsessing over them being alone at home , and what if she this and what is she thats ……🙈

But then I realized that this was the first time that I have really been by myself , I didn’t have to wash and sterilize ant bottles, I didn’t have to keep an eye on the time for her nap and her feeding. I could just be , I could do what I want and best of all ; take my sweet time doing it 🤫🤪

I went shopping with a friend and even had a few uninterrupted glasses of wine with her , and we chatted for hours , I had a full nights sleep without waking up!

HEAVEN !

On the drive back home today , I couldn’t wait to get back to my family , I couldn’t wait to wash bottles and sterilize them , I couldn’t wait to hold her in my arms and kiss her little feet !

Now I am back home and I feel like I can do it all again , I am thankful for getting to do it all if that makes sense ….

Taking a break from your life is sometimes all you need just to appreciate everything again , recharge relax and get the strength to go on again !

I am just so happy to be home with my family 💜

Angelique

Starting Solids |Butternut For The Win

So I started my baby girl on solids yesterday !

It feels like I have been waiting for this FOREVER ! I was just so excited to start that I couldn’t wait a minute longer ! She is now 5 and a half months old , and showing interest in food and almost sitting by herself.

I just decided to ignore all the controversy on when to start and just following my “mom gut instinct” . 🤪

This is so exciting for me as a new mom , trying new things and learning with my baby about what works best for both me and her !

She was not too impressed yesterday , but today she actually swallowed some of her food , so I see that as a win 🤣

It is all just so amazing to see her grow up and go through all these stages in her life , I am so blessed to be her mother and cant wait to teach her so many things ! She is just such a joy !

Am I the only mom that gets excited about these little moments and documents everything she does ?!

Treasure every moment with your little ones , because as we all know , time gets away from us and we get caught up in the day to day things and forget to take a moment and just appreciate the people that we love .

Angelique

The Great Unknown ….

The past few days I found myself at a loss for words , writers block if you will .

Life just does that sometimes doesn’t it !?

It throws you curveballs that you never saw coming , and it just takes its toll , the past few days I was just tired , no specific reason , just overall exhausted with my life , and I am sure that happens to almost everyone !

We are planning on moving (as some of you know) and our business is in the market , but we don’t know where we will move to and what jobs we will get and maybe even a change of career paths , we don’t know when this will be , its nerve wrecking to say the least , I love change as much as the next person , but its the not knowing that makes me stress so much !

If you know where you are headed , you can prepare yourself mentally and start picturing this new life , because you have all these images to fill in the blanks , with us , its just black (with a very big light at the end of the tunnel off course) and that is so scary , for anyone !

Especially with a family , when I was single , this would be sooo exciting for me , 20 year old me would LOVE this uncertainty, the 27 year old mom me , not so much ! 🤪

If you have a family , you have this need to protect and provide , whether you are the father , the mother , or both to your baby , uncertainty about the future and having an infant just does not go well together , at all !

Motherhood has sure made me into a “worry wart” , but in a good way , I am more responsible , less impulsive , more patient and most of all , I feel like I have calmed down , I am not as rushed and frantic as I used to be ….

All phases in life offers so many lessons to be learnt, if we are open to them ; so I am excited to see what this new journey teaches me about life !

Stay tuned …..

Angelique

Stress || The Silent Killer

I cant speak for everyone , but wow do I stress since Paige was born.

And I mean about EVERYTHING!

It is such a roller coaster some days , why is she not sleeping , she feels warm to me , I have to make food , I have a headache , I am tired , I need to get to work , we are in the process of selling our business , we will have to move soon.

And this is just my life , I know a lot of women have so much going on and so many balls in the air ; that some days you just don’t know how you will get it all done , and at the end of the day , you did , you somehow managed to get most of your things done and you don’t even know how !

To me , thats mom strength! Throughout all the stressing and rushing around , you persevere , and get through it , because at the end of the day you have this little bundle depending on you to do just that – Keep on Keeping on !

How beautiful is that ?

Life just has new meaning ❤️

Angelique